A Perspective Into American v. European Dancing
After several nights out in Queenstown and having spent 6 weeks in Oxford I have finally come to a conclusion on the differences between European and American dancing. I thought I would take a minute to highlight the differences. I realize New Zealand isn’t Europe, but for this post, let’s assume they are the same.
The biggest difference is that European girls and guys don’t dance with each other. They dance alone.
In America when you go out to a club/bar, you typically bump into a girl, chit chat with her for several minutes, and if you like her, you ask her to dance. You probably dance exclusively with her for 3 to 4 songs and then if your smooth enough, you get her number.
In Europe this does NOT happen. I confirmed my theory last night when I tried to dance with a Kiwi girl using my typical American moves; spins, dips, twirls, etc. She stopped dancing, shook her head no, and walked away. Burn.
Confused, I asked my British friend how one would dance with girls in Europe. He informed me that if you ‘fancy’ a girl you dance by yourself in front of her. If she likes you she will continue to dance facing you. If she doesn’t, she will move away. The result is 5th grade themed dance party where guys with questionable dance moves try super aggressively to dance in front of the cutest girls.
White Americans can’t dance – let alone dance by themselves!! At first I was a bit hesitant, but if you cant beat them, join them. So I just started dancing ‘European’ and made a complete ass of myself. But you know what, it was fun – it was really fun. Sometimes you’ve just got to try new things.